this tangled path

I woke up after only 41/2 hours of sleep very early this morning.  About an hour before the alarm was set to go off I fell back to sleep.  Anxiety, sadness, weariness shroud me and yet, I have to keep taking the next step.  There is such a line of ghosts and ghouls haunting my everyday that when a few of them pass into the light the relief lasts but a moment.

I had a blog prepared for today but I left my notebook at home.  The bright side is that it’s there for another day:)  So, once again, this is off the cuff.

I am getting ready to say goodbye in just three short weeks to family (adult children, a grandchild, parents, other extended family, and a grandmother who is in the hospital at 104 years of age). I asked my son how can I leave when there are family members struggling with varying life challenges and grief?  He said, “You get in the car, drive down the road and cry.”  Bless his practical viewpoint.  I’ve weighed this decision to move continually for a year.  I’ve sought council from reliable people and know that this is my course to travel.  That does not make the leaving any easier.

In the midst of it all I’m trying to get this blog up and running, not even sure of its focus.  Of course that didn’t cross my mind when I set it up that first day.  (I was still a bit in denial about all that was weighing on me.  That was also before my youngest moved to Chicago and my grandmother became ill.)  I suppose for now it is cathartic and a learning experience.

Creativity has been my cherished companion throughout the past half century.  I’ve learned field expedience, imagining myself a homemaking MacGyver on occasion.  I’ve painted from time to time and even been entered in a juried show or two.  I’ve written one act dramas for church, a couple of sermons and lots of heady essays (which are unsaved and unshared…perhaps to the benefit of mankind).  This is the first time I have actually stepped beyond myself in this way.  I sure hope it goes well.

Starting a “new life” (right now) feels like wriggling out of a girdle that’s about to take your last breath.  It’s time to grow, expand, imagine more and move into an actualized time of life.  But I swear sometimes recently I just want to duck back into the familiar illusions and bake cookies.

There are things to accept and things to fight for.  Sometimes it’s tough to know the difference.  I am extremely thankful for the ways in which technology keep us connected.  I can still walk through the valley of the shadow of death with my family members endeavoring to fear no evil.  We can celebrate our victories together and encourage one another.  We can at least see one another even though hugging has not yet become available in the virtual world.

There will be family around me still when I arrive in Texas.  There will be a huge city rather than a small town…for which I am particularly thankful.  I miss the city.  There is even another grandchild there with whom I have only spent a couple of weeks after his birth.  None of that lessens how much I will miss the ones I leave behind.

The sun will rise after it sets.  A new day will dawn.  But at night the ghosts are scarier.


8 Comments Add yours

  1. wendy waters says:

    Well I imagine this finds you three weeks into your new adventure. We take it for granted that children fly the nest when they are old enough to explore the world with some degree of safety but we rarely sanction the departure of parents when life sirens them from the safe harbour of domestic life. I applaud your courage and completely admire your spirit. Life is for living right up to the last breath and beyond. Revel in every new day and explore new people and new ways of being. It can only make you more fascinating company when you visit the family at Christmas!

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    1. Thank you. I have felt unexpectedly disoriented but am finally beginning to feel some ground under me. Still trying to find balance in new circumstances. All in time.

      I wish you continued and increasing success and really look forward to reading more blog posts by you. Your thoughts and words dance together so beautifully and make me want to dance more too!


  2. Kentucky Angel says:

    A feeling of longing, beautifully expressed. Leaving home, yet going home, back to familiar environment vs. what has become familiar. You are so brave. I didn’t have the courage to leave, just stayed while the rest left me behind. Now I have the courage, but with advanced MS, no longer the ability to follow dreams that I’ve now abandoned. I pray all your dreams come true, because that rainbow has to touch the ground for someone. I hope it will be for you.

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    1. What an incredibly beautiful reply…that brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for your heartfelt wishes. I am really happy to have found your blog. It is, as you are, truly wonderful!

      I think I became more frightened of what would happen if I didn’t move than I was of moving. Almost 5 years ago my husband of almost 20 years divorced me. He has been faithful with support but that will run out. As a full time homemaker for most of my adult life I have to now provide for my health care and future so that my children don’t bear an unfathomable burden as I age. I’ve made progress here, but not enough. So…since this small town offers very very limited prospects I do what must be done.
      My grandmother always says that when she didn’t like the way things looked she changed the way she looked at things. I guess that’s what I’ve done 🙂

      I pray blessings and discovery for you that lightens your heart and fills you with gladness!


  3. noblethemes says:

    Wonderful post, of course, though it rips at my heart… I will not be so brash as to say I can understand; however, the poignancy of what you are feeling certainly shines through in your graceful words. I do hope and pray all goes well in your transition… Peace to you, and blessings!

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    1. Your words mean a great deal. Thank you. Peace to you as well:)

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  4. I hope your transition is an easy one. Best of luck to you, and safe travels.

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    1. Thank you so much! 🙂

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